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Hey, welcome to the Q Rayas project. Also Artistic Warfare, also Million Names. Also, this is a segment because I've been hesitant to start like a whole other podcast because I've got a million podcasts. So I'm just making a dumpster truck of all kinds of material that doesn't go together. Anyway, experimenting. But this is important because I...

was looking for some information on how to handle certain situations. I love researching and I love seeing other people's methods and how they do it and techniques and tactics. This topic is about what do you do when you encounter a jealous boyfriend?

Right? Because a jealous boyfriend is a dangerous emotional person. Jealousy is in a dangerous emotion. And I say dangerous, obviously, in the whole spectrum. mean, people can get hurt all the way, you know, from emotions all the way to physical. So, but I'm not going in the extreme. I'm talking about that, that guy that, that.

that is jealous. And I'm going to go even more specific. What do you do with specifically messages or phone calls? But let's go even more specific to messages from jealous boyfriends, right? Like how do you handle a man that says, hey, what's up with you and my girl? Or hey, I found your number in my girl's phone.

or hey, why are you hitting up my girl or whatever. He's approaching you because he either found something on her phone or maybe you had a conversation with her or maybe you knew her from way back when and maybe you still actively, you know.

kicking it with her, maybe you already knew she had a boyfriend, maybe you didn't know she had a boyfriend, but regardless, how do you deal with this incoming traffic? Well, obviously, if you didn't know she had a boyfriend, it depends how you feel, right? Because if you're hurt by it, like, man, I this girl was about me, then the conversation should probably be like, hey, I didn't know.

and take it from there, however you see that. I'm not gonna go in that direction. I'm gonna go in the direction where maybe you knew she had a boyfriend, but I mean, don't most girls have a boyfriend at some point? mean, you know, and I'm gonna divide it into long-term relationships. You know, like if someone has kids and they're married and...

you know, married 15 years, you know, that's a different kind, that's not a boyfriend, right? I'm speaking of just this random guy. You don't know if they've been together. You don't know what the story is behind them. So how do you handle it in a way that you're not affected and at the same time, you're not affecting her or him, you know, like you just want to be out of that, that whole shadow. So.

I looking for this, couldn't find a good way to actually get this done. So what in searching other things on how to handle this, we have to first understand where he's coming from, right? This is a guy that had the guts or the emotional instability to hit you up. So there's already he was.

Before he did that, there was already some feelings there. if we already know this is an emotional person, because he wouldn't be hitting you up if he didn't care. So we know this is an emotional person. What do we do now? So we know that we don't handle emotions with emotions. And you have to be empathetic, first of all, except, this is an exception,

If he's coming at you aggressively, insulting you, threatening you, all of that, don't even respond. That's all you gotta do. Just ignore him, block him. You're not gonna win. Don't waste your time. Plus, you don't need that drama. But let's say that he's not. That this is just some hurt guy for whatever reason.

you have to put yourself, empathy is that you put yourself in his shoes and think that maybe you could be in that situation one day or maybe you've been in a situation one day and how would you want to be treated? Right? So you don't want to come back as weak, but you also don't want to come back strong. You want to be emotionless if you can. That emotion that you do show is about

You, right? Because he's hitting you up. And you have to be like, look, you need to talk to her. Put it on her. That's her boyfriend. Why is he calling you? And most likely they've already had an argument about it. Or he might be calling you before the argument. know, they just get in. That's none of your problem. You know, that's her boyfriend and that's his girlfriend. You guys go talk it out. I'm an external factor.

Right now, if you are still actively involved with this person, I would recommend against just. Just just going there, you know, don't say anything because you don't know what's going on, right? You don't know. She might be seeing other dudes and you get caught up in something that's not even about you. But it don't try to make her look bad because that.

makes you look bad. Also don't try to make him look bad either because he already feels like a dummy. So you want to bring him back up, hey you really need to talk to her about this. And then he's probably going to come back, well did you guys have something going on? Blah blah blah. You know this sounds like it's an issue between you guys.

And I, you know, just leave like real short answers, you know, and you should really, you guys should really have a conversation. Because this allows him to back away and go handle that, which he should. If this happens to you, you need to handle it with the correct person. However, he's just looking for confirmation, right? You don't want to confirm anything.

or deny anything. You really want to just be emotionless and throw the ball back at him. And then he's gonna take it two ways. He's gonna escalate it when he starts going crazy. Then that's when you like shut it off. You don't random people just insulting you or like wasting your time or, or he's gonna come down a bit. And hopefully he just goes away, right? But if he doesn't,

If he starts insulting you, you cut it off. If he starts going the other direction where he goes, hey, you know, I love this girl and I can't believe she's doing this to me and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It starts getting all emotional. Again, throw him back. Yeah, you need to have a conversation with her. You know, but the empathy, the reason that you don't want to just flat out write him off.

is because, know, this could end right here, you know, like this situation, you could take it over there, they break up or, but there's another element at play here, which is that triangle, right? So she's here, he's here, now you're here, and now this is a triangle here. And what happens is she might've done this to,

get him jealous, you know, she might have showed him messages or told him about you, whatever, to get a reaction from him, to see if he cares, whatever her crazy reason is. And he's now activated his competitive mode because as men, we are naturally competitive. So when we see there's another man in the picture,

it immediately triggers a subconscious competition where, no, I gotta win. Like he's not gonna take her from me. And the truth is, if she's doing all this, she's definitely not worth neither one of you, but it just wakes that up. And the best thing you can do is just allow him to feel that he went in competition mode.

He encountered you, you know, because that takes a lot to just hit you up about it. And once he did that, he found that you did not attack him, did not, you know, do anything. Just like he found a wall. And this allows him to retract and hopefully calm down and handle the situation. Like I said, if he goes aggressive,

He's too activated. You can't deactivate that person. want to waste your time doing it. So you want to just do this for the people that are that you know, they just hurt. You know, there's a guy that probably just found this out and it's confused his whole world's upside down, whatever it is. And just leave it alone. Leave it alone. So. Yeah, that's it. That's it. That's this episode. Obviously, there's a lot of.

roads where this can go. You know, if you really have something going with this girl and you're kind of like her side piece and it's like a longer term thing or you still plan on seeing her, that's a whole other episode because then you really are trying to play in that triangle and it requires a different kind of approach or

a different kind of response, if there's a response. The only time you don't want to respond is when they go crazy, because they may be really crazy. They may be really crazy people out there. So you don't want to trigger none of that. You don't want to be a part of that. You don't want any questions about why this person went crazy. You don't want to be involved in any of that.

Don't respond. Leave that alone. But if you see that this is just a person that's most likely hurt, let them know, hey, you got a choice. You need to talk to her. And if he goes beyond that and, I her, love her, go talk to her. And if she hits you up, she's playing the triangle. Right. So now you know she's playing that game. And if she hits you up, that means

She's not done with you, obviously, because she should stop the behavior if she wants to be with that man. Or he might have got her to hit you up, right? Because it happens. So you got to be extremely careful. I would suggest not replying to anything she has to say. Let that situation marinate because...

a big chance that is that he's right there, either watching her text you and telling her what to text or calling you from her phone, know, like, so leave, don't answer, leave that alone. Yeah, man, that's what I have to say, you know, and I've been in situations like this.

in both ends, When you find something out and you're trying to figure out what's she doing, you know? But the times that I've done it has been to sort of ruin the situation. Because I know in my mind I'm done with her, but there's a little bit of resentment and anger and all of that. That revenge is...

Well, if I'm leaving, I'm going to make sure she don't stay with him and I'm going to ruin that relationship. So I've contacted dudes to put ideas and fuel their heads and imaginations about her to drive him away. And then I drive away and then she's alone. Anyway, that has nothing to do with the episode, just that's it. The human mind works. You know, we all are vengeful. We all want revenge. We all want.

people that hurt us to hurt, it's just a natural thing. And that's a whole nother episode of, on just revenge, but just make sure that you're not part of someone's revenge, you know? until next time, you know, like I said, this is a topic, seduction technology that I've been just blogging and writing about and podcasting about for many years. And I go.

in my ups and downs in my own life. And then I feel like I have these big pauses. Like I go really gung ho on these episodes. And then I have a pause and then a lot of million things positive and negative happen in my life. And then I, I go back. Then when I come back, I come back stronger with more situations, more stories, more learning, more things that I've learned. And I like to share these because whether it's for me,

my kids or whoever in the future can listen to this and and not have to go through what what I go through and just kind of take a shortcut say that well I'm not gonna do that or I might do that then that helps the next generation be smarter quicker faster just evolve so I'm leave it there until next time subscribe let me know also what you think if I'm wrong I'm wrong

But you gotta explain it. You can't just say I'm wrong. know, a lot of comments are, no, that don't work. Okay, well, tell it like it is. You know, let's make it a conversation and not just an opinion. Let's talk facts, all right? So until next time, peace.